No Comments Posted: Please note that due to abuse and spam in my comments, I have now required that they be approved before consideration for publication. I do read the comments posted in the “about” section, but to ensure everyone’s privacy, I do not intend to post them without explicit permission beforehand. And although I read the comments, I regret that due to the volume I can’t personally respond to them all. I do notice common themes and write about those in upcoming articles, without disclosing specifics. I know that people put a lot of trust in me when they post comments, which is why I don’t typically re post them. Infidelity is a very personal topic and I strive to keep it that way.
These are moderated message boards. What this means is that we do our best to remove all objectionable messages from the boards. It also means that you cannot say whatever you'd like on the forums. If you are looking for an "anything goes" setting, Cruise Critic might not be the place for you. Understand, too, that our community is comprised of folks who LOVE to cruise. It therefore stands to reason that they will have a favorite cruise line or port of call -- in other words, they are "fans" and will sometimes take offense when a brand new member has arrived on the scene to bash a cruise line.
Understand also that you can enjoy very satisfying sex in the relative absence of sexual desire . Sexual desire is an inherently male quality (no desire; no erection). Men’s sexuality is linear: Desire leading to arousal leading to erection and sexual intimacy. Women are different; their sexuality is more circular and circuitous (“women need a reason for sex; men just need a place ”), and starts with intimacy , not desire. Women first must be approachable. To be approachable, a woman must feel trust and intimacy with her partner. Given this, plus some gentle physical intimacy, she may become aroused and only then may have desire for sex…which leads ‘round again to approachability. Sexual satisfaction for women involves intimacy and arousal. Don’t feel bummed or abnormal if your desire appears down– you are normal ! Sexual desire for women is dependent mostly upon the novelty of a relationship; it is not an inherent part of female sexuality.